Overwhelmed? Reach Out

As mamas, we are automatically assumed the role of super moms who shouldn’t ask for help because society has taught us help is a sure sign of weakness. I am here to tell you, that assumption is completely inaccurate and should be thrown into the trash immediately. Asking for help when you need it, is actually apart of self-care. Motivational speaker, Les Brown, said it so beautifully, “ask for help, not because you are weak but because you want to remain strong.” I am preaching to myself when I say asking for help, especially if you feel overwhelmed, is healthy not only physically but mentally and emotionally. Personally, I used to despise asking for help. I hated it because I didn’t want to appear vulnerable to anyone. I would overdo things to the point of exhaustion, finally I hit a breaking point and realized I am not taking care of myself whatsoever and I definitely needed to change that. My circle is pretty small and I only trust a handful, so I began to reach out to them for help, whether is was a brief moment away from the kids, or to just emotionally vent, I was brave enough to ask for help and I was so relieved when I did. As mothers, we can put too much on ourselves that it begins to feel unbearable and lonely. Love, you don’t have to feel that way. If you have some trustworthy people in your circle, reach out to them, you are not a bother and if they care for you, they are reachable. I have struggled over the years not telling anyone how I feel or what’s wrong but that was self-sabotage and very toxic. I had to discontinue it like a bad habit and reach out and free myself from being overwhelmed. Mamas, I am here to encourage you to reach out to someone you trust or even a counselor if you are feeling overwhelmed, and decompress. Be brave enough to fight for yourself and reach out if life feels intolerable!