Moving forward into a new year is inevitable, but what isn’t, is making the choice to never leave yourself behind again. By that I mean never put yourself last, or you needs and desires on the back burner just to accommodate someone else’s needs because that is the definition of self-sabotage, which is highly toxic. In the past, I have made choices to be present based on the needs of others while I was left barely making it. I refuse to do that anymore. I realized that I matter, I deserve to be put first. In 2022, the word “no” should be said without fear especially when it affects you mentally and emotionally. Why wear yourself out helping people when others would never do the same for you? People-pleasing is outdated and should never be considered as a form of expressing your love and care for someone. As mentioned in my previous blogs, if you don’t take care of yourself who will? That’s right, no one, because no one will have that kind of access to your needs like you do. You can support other’s dreams without neglecting your own. If you are an empath, have a big heart and are naturally a giver, abandoning yourself, while helping others, might feel like the right decision but it’s not. Finding balance between self-care and helping others is the right decision and would benefit everyone in the end. Don’t let anyone disturb your peace or mental health because they need you, if they truly care, they will understand. If you are having trouble choosing who to please, choose yourself every time. Instead of New Year’s resolutions, make a life-style change to never leave yourself behind. You can’t be truly there for others if you are not there for yourself, first.
The Restless Boss Beast 