Clarity

Happy Martin Luther King Day! Today, I decided to share this short but sweet poem that I wrote a few years ago, that I hope you all will enjoy!

I got a lot of hurt in me but I try to ignore it, I am weary but I am strong and move forward, onward, I go. It’s the only thing I really know, my friend and my foe. I thought I have been through this before, I guess I am not familiar enough, life gets rough, but onward I go I take every blow and feel it in my soul, deeper I go to who knows where but at least I am going there, at least I am aware. I stare into space trying to make sense of this strange taste in my mouth, trying to understand why everything went south. But it was meant to be, this is my tainted destiny. This red elixir keeps me company, like a soothing tea. I was vision impaired but I am slowly starting to see that what will be, will be and because of this, I rest in this new found clarity.

2022 Favorite Winter Products!

It’s official, I am posting blogs every Monday! I tried Wednesday and Friday and those days I found, don’t work with my schedule at all. So why not start the beginning of the week with a juicy blog. For this post, I will be sharing my favorite winter products to start off 2022. I hope that all (or some) of these products help navigate your winter hygiene routine.

Dove Dryness Relief Body Wash with Jojoba Oil

If you have read my previous blogs, then you know how much I adore Dove body wash. My go-to body wash from Dove is Deep Moisture. I was hesitant to try a different one but I am so glad that I decided to give it a shot. The scent smells absolutely wonderful. It’s definitely a combination of coconut oil, shea butter with a hint of jojoba oil. Your skin will be well-hydrated after bathing with this wash. This retails at $6.49 and it lasts longer than expected. I am pleased with this product so much that I bought my second bottle the other day. I will definitely recommend this body wash to keep your skin moisturized during the winter months.

Nivea Vanilla & Almond Oil Infused Lotion

To help your skin become even more moisturized and soft, this lotion is it. The lotion is pretty thick, so a little goes along way. The scent goes real well with the Dove Dryness Relief body wash and will have you smelling fresh all day. This lotion retails at $5.99. I have had it for almost a month and I still have a lot left. I recommend this lotion for the colder months to help protect the skin against the harsh, brutal weather.

Suave Almond & Shea Butter Moisturizing Conditioner

Are you noticing a pattern yet? Almond and Shea Butter works so well for me, not only for my skin but for my hair as well. During the colder months, I don’t really wash my hair with shampoo as much because it leaves my scalp dry and itchy. Instead, I use a moisturizing conditioner or co-wash to help keep my curls moisturized and hydrated. This conditioner smells amazing and has my curls and coils poppin’ and looking alive. This is quite a deal, retailing at $3.99. I purchased this the end of November and I still have some for at least two more washes.

Beloved Pumpkin & Tonka Whipped Body Scrub

I believe body scrubs are essential for winter. It helps reduce the risk of flaky, dry skin. My skin is ten times softer since using a body scrub on a regular basis. I typically scrub a few times a week. Since using this scrub, I have found that my skin is just as soft as my toddlers! The scent is intoxicating and I love the this brand provides whipped body scrubs, it makes it so much easier to apply and it feels amazing on the skin. This delightful scrub retails at $9.99. I would definitely recommend purchasing this scrub because it will certainly not disappoint.

These are just a few of my favorite winter products for 2022 that I thought I would share. What are a few of your winter favorites so far?

Moving Forward, Don’t Leave Yourself Behind

Moving forward into a new year is inevitable, but what isn’t, is making the choice to never leave yourself behind again. By that I mean never put yourself last, or you needs and desires on the back burner just to accommodate someone else’s needs because that is the definition of self-sabotage, which is highly toxic. In the past, I have made choices to be present based on the needs of others while I was left barely making it. I refuse to do that anymore. I realized that I matter, I deserve to be put first. In 2022, the word “no” should be said without fear especially when it affects you mentally and emotionally. Why wear yourself out helping people when others would never do the same for you? People-pleasing is outdated and should never be considered as a form of expressing your love and care for someone. As mentioned in my previous blogs, if you don’t take care of yourself who will? That’s right, no one, because no one will have that kind of access to your needs like you do. You can support other’s dreams without neglecting your own. If you are an empath, have a big heart and are naturally a giver, abandoning yourself, while helping others, might feel like the right decision but it’s not. Finding balance between self-care and helping others is the right decision and would benefit everyone in the end. Don’t let anyone disturb your peace or mental health because they need you, if they truly care, they will understand. If you are having trouble choosing who to please, choose yourself every time. Instead of New Year’s resolutions, make a life-style change to never leave yourself behind. You can’t be truly there for others if you are not there for yourself, first.

Be A Boundary Boss!

Creating boundaries is necessary, especially if you are prone to being a people-pleaser and a naturally kind person. Don’t get me wrong, being a kind person is awesome but being a kind person that has created boundaries in their life is phenomenal. When you begin any kind of relationship with someone remember to have boundaries. You can’t be everything to someone and not there at all for yourself. It’s healthy to create boundaries at the beginning of each relationship to set realistic expectations so you don’t neglect yourself. It’s also important to know when to set boundaries if situations become draining. If a relationship has some toxicity, set boundaries. If you notice that your loved ones are taking advantage of you, set boundaries. If a situation is starting to cause you more pain than happiness, boundaries need to be set, because you matter. Don’t feel guilty if you have to set a boundary and say no to one of your loved ones, if they love and care about you, they will understand, if they don’t respect your boundaries, then that is confirmation that you needed to set them in the first place. Studies have shown, that setting boundaries actually enhances your emotional health and well-being. Setting boundaries gives you the freedom to practice true self-care. Lately, I have been setting boundaries and improving my mental health, and I must say that it has been quite liberating. Be that boundary boss that I know you can be and set those much needed boundaries for the sake of self-care you will feel relieved that you did!

Deja Vu

Happy Halloween! I was under the weather for the past couple of days, I decided to do my last Heart-Throbbing Thursday story today in celebration of Halloween. This story is based on some true events but my imagination definitely took the lead on this one: Deja Vu

After my dog bombarded me with her slobber on my face, I hesitantly started to get up and look around. Surprisingly, everything looked normal again. My backyard wasn’t empty, I heard people and the streets were occupied with cars. As I went inside through the basement, I held my breath to prepare me of what might be waiting for me on the other side of the door. As I creeped in, I was relieved when I saw our things there. I ran upstairs in hopes that my family were present and everything was in place. I opened the door and saw my mom cleaning the bathroom. Excited, I gave my mom a huge hug. Confused as to why I would give her such a warm hug while she was cleaning the bathroom, she asked if everything was okay. Elated, that everything appeared to be normal, I told her I loved her and just needed that person to person contact. I went to explore the rest of the house just to make sure none of my family members weren’t missing. After wandering through the rest of the house all my family members were safe at home. I spent the rest of the day enjoying my family’s company. I didn’t experience any nightmares for a few nights so I was anticipating getting some good sleep. I cozied my way into my bed, and pleasantly drifted off. Unexpectedly, I had a nightmare of someone chasing me into a dark abyss. Frightened, I ran further into the darkness in hopes that I will soon find some sort of light. I started to become fatigued and slowly ran out of steam. I fainted and collapsed onto the black cold ground. I woke up abruptly in my bed again. While it was still dark, I had a sudden urge to use the bathroom. Carefully, I got out of bed and made my way out the door. I saw the living room light was on and wondered who was in there so late at night. I turned the corner and saw my dad with his back turned, fiddling with something. I tapped him on his back to greet him and when he turned around my dad had horns on the crown of his head, warts all over his face, and black sharp squinty eyes. He looked absolutely grotesque. He turned to me and he looked evil and started yelling at me. I ran back to my room and he staggered after me. I shut and locked the door, I felt semi-secure since my sister was in there, I jumped in the bed and scurried under the covers, hoping that this was another dream. This same occurrence happened to me three more times. I was tired and frustrated, so I decided to stay under the covers until I saw sunlight. Patiently waiting for morning to come, I dozed off. When I woke up the sun was shining in my room. I was so relieved but exhausted at the same time. When I got up from the bed I noticed right under me were horns. I ran out of my room and I found my dad sleeping on the couch with two big bruises on the crown of his head. As I went passed him, he quietly said wasn’t that fun, we should do it again sometime…..

Happy Halloween be safe!

Moody Monday: Villain

Welcome to Moody Monday, where I let my mood dictate what I write. This is the last Moody Monday for awhile before I delve into other planned topics. Tonight, my mood dictated a short poem, entitled Villain.

Go ahead, paint my picture dirty, make yourself feel more worthy. But your vision is blurry because you were in a hurry and forgot some details of the actual story. You are the villain, that was chillin’ waiting for your chance to spread distorted tales about me. You were evil and wicked with your intentions to destroy me but that was your first fallacy, you are just projecting, and that is clearly affecting how you feel about me. Let me serve you some tea, the first cup, I will gladly give for free. You can’t destroy what doesn’t belong to you, and that’s on everything.

Heart-Throbbing Thursday: The Eerie Portal

Welcome to Heart-Throbbing Thursday. Where I share creepy stories. This next story is a gem that I created in my pretty little head.

The nightmares slowly started to subside and I was starting to have restful sleep. Everything was starting to go back to normal, or so I thought. In the backyard was where I usually played with my dog, Beauty. I knew the backyard like the back of my hand. I would joyfully play out there for hours by myself and love every minute of it. I would make up games just to make my backyard experience even better. One day, I made up a game called the blind game ( original I know), is where I would test my memory on how well I know my way around the backyard with my eyes closed. The backyard consisted of a bunch of cars that no longer functioned and an old decrepit garage, in the back of the garage was a walk space between the garage and fence, that’s where I wanted to test my abilities the most, I successfully made my way back there until I tripped and fell over a stump and hit my head. As I awakened from brief slumber, I started to notice everything was gray. As I walked towards the house I realized my dog wasn’t in the backyard. I heard no cars pass by or people talking,just dead silence. I made my way to the basement, when I opened the door, I noticed that all of our storage was gone. I ran upstairs to see what happened when I was playing outside, I discovered there wasn’t anyone in the house, all of our things were missing. I sat there alone on the cold, hard floor with my racing thoughts. I couldn’t understand what happened, what could have gone wrong? As I sat there puzzled, I suddenly was parched, I looked in the refrigerator to see if there was anything drinkable left, after the happening . To my surprise, there was one gold bottle. I was perplexed, because I knew my mom has never purchased water that looked like this. Desperate to quench my thirst, I grabbed the fancy bottle of water anyway and drink it all within seconds. After I drank the water, I started to feel nauseous and dizzy. I laid on the floor hoping to soon recuperate, but I became so fatigued, I fell asleep. Suddenly I woke up, to my dog licking me in the backyard…..

Tune in next Thursday for the final story before Halloween!

Moody Monday: Gaslighting Gangster

Welcome to Moody Monday where I allow my mood to dictate what I write. Tonight, I will be sharing what happens to empathic women who are in relationship with toxic, narcissistic men..

Have you ever met a man that had “potential” but rough around the edges? A man that you began to fall in love with what he could be so you attempt to fix and save him? A man that has revealed to you glimpses of disrespect but you simply brush it off because you realize that he is still in repair from all of the “wrong” the world has done to him? I have and it feels like a spiraling rollercoaster. At first, it’s exciting that you are helping someone that really needs it but then you experience the repercussions of a narcissist who only cares about how they are affected by a situation but completely disregards your emotional health. How being the empath you are, you simply don’t want to give up on someone that you are trying to love but are yet conflicted with how much emotional games you have to endure. He says sorry for being disrespectful and calling you out your name but continues to do it days later. The awful feeling you experience when he punishes you for having emotions and feelings that don’t align with his agenda. Then the isolation begins. He starts to slowly disconnect you from your family and friends to have more power over you until you feel weak and hopeless. You are the villain if you try to leave and he is the victim trying to convince you that you are always wrong and can never do anything right and no one could ever love you like him. You slowly lose yourself. One day you don’t even recognize yourself and your whole world has deteriorated in front of your eyes. Let me tell you something, when you start to feel you don’t know yourself while being in a toxic relationship, run. A gaslighting gangster is not someone you should try to fix but a person you should disengage from immediately to avoid any baggage, unnecessary hurt and trauma from it. Run girl, and never look back…..

Tune next week for another Moody Monday!

Heart-Throbbing Thursday: When The Porcelain Doll Came Home

Welcome to Heart-Throbbing Thursday when I share creepy stories that actually happened to me or the gems that I create in my head. Tonight, I will share an actual experience during my childhood that will give you chills and make your heart-throb.

I was about 9 or 10 years old when I received this brown hair pale-faced porcelain doll. It was at church, when this doll came to live with me. A lady who thought kindly of me gifted me this porcelain creepy doll being the respectful Christian girl that I was, I quietly thanked her and went about my holy day. When my family and I finally arrived home for the day it was still daytime and the doll didn’t look as scary as I initially thought. As the day slowly went into the evening, it was mandatory to get ready for bed to prepare for Monday morning. The doll, that was placed on my sister’s and I dresser when we arrived home, was carefully placed by the foot of my bed on the bookshelf safely hiding her creepy glass eyes. I climbed into bed anticipating a restful sleep. All tucked in I used to put my feet out at the edge of the bed to better sleep. It wasn’t until the middle of the night when I started to feel strange, I sluggishly got up and went to the bathroom came back and positioned myself to sleep the same way I always have, as I was about to enter the REM sleep cycle I felt a slight tug on my foot, I quickly jolted out of my blankets. Confused, I thought it could have been my sister but she was sleeping on the opposite wall. Trying to take deep breaths to calm myself down, I decided I was just imagining things and decided to position myself back in my comfortable spot. It couldn’t have been 5 minutes later my feet were jerked to the foot of my bed. Frightened, I clammed up and curled into a ball, tightened the blankets over my head and patiently waited to fall asleep. Morning came, and I carefully looked over the foot of my bed to examine the area where my doll rested. I found nothing strange so I moved on forgetting about the previous night until nighttime arrived and I became more scared when it was time to go to sleep. Over the course of a week, I experienced creepy events like my feet being tickled, being pulled again, struggling to be free from the hands at the edge of my bed. Finally, I was tired of the restless nights and I decided to rid myself of this doll. Within my house, I found a pillowcase I shoved the creepy doll in it and smashed it against the wall. I didn’t want anyone to know what I experienced, so I threw the doll in the back right corner of the top shelf in the closet and closed the door. After that, I never had those horrific experiences ever again, well, with that doll. I truly believe that there was a spirit of a child trapped or an evil spirit trying to bring fear in my life, within the porcelain doll. The moral of the story, don’t accept “gifts” from strangers when you don’t the history or the spirits that are attached.

Stay tuned for next Thursday’s heart throb!

It Happens At Nightfall

Welcome to Heart-Throbbing Thursday where I share a creepy story in the spirit of Halloween. Tonight, I will be sharing a story based on true events. A story that will leave you with goosebumps..

After the horrifying experience I witnessed the night before, paranormal activity was starting to occur every night for a month straight with only me witnessing it. I anxiously asked my whole family that resided in the same house as me, if they experienced anything peculiar at night and they all declined. I crept through each day in fear of what nightfall may bring. Each night, I experienced something unusual and creepy. I would feel fingers crawling on me, or my leg being pulled, creepy noises or horrifying figures in the corner of my shared room. Every morning, I would wake up exhausted and absolutely petrified of what occurred the nights prior. I felt like a zombie dragging through the day to only meet my doom at night. I persistently asked God to protect me, but apparently I was meant to experience these happenings because God didn’t grant my wish. I felt cursed, haunted and set apart from reality. Nothing or no one could save me from having this constant nightmare. I was miserable and felt the need to isolate myself from everyone because I was different. I was the secret witch of the family. I was officially alone in this, and frightened. I question during the day how long will this last? When will I be rescued from this dark hell that I am living when the sun goes down? I thought I found redemption when I didn’t experience anything paranormal for a week, until the 8th night, when I witnessed the most malevolent, wicked and corrupt being that I have ever seen…..

Tune in next Thursday for what happens next….