Have you ever met a group of people that just gets you? Who loves you without judgement and gives you unconditional love with no strings attached? A group of people who you can absolutely be vulnerable with and you feel like you have known them for a lifetime? That is your soul tribe. People who are seriously concerned about your well-being, both spiritually and physically. Your soul tribe doesn’t necessarily have to be your actual family ( could be) but you know when someone is apart of your tribe when nothing can spiritually keep you apart from them. Your souls are beautifully connected. They are there with you in happiness, silence or even separation. Whenever you are ready to return to your soul tribe they will always be waiting for you with open arms. As I continue my spiritual journey, I am grateful that I found a couple of soul sisters from my tribe. I know that I have a few others that are apart of the tribe that I haven’t met just yet but I know that I will meet them as I travel through life. If you haven’t met members of your soul tribe still, just know they will come as you continue your soul’s journey. If you have met some, be grateful that you are blessed that you have such abundant soul support.
I used to believe chaos was peace because at one point in my life, I was constantly being surrounded by it. I settled for torment because that was the only thing I was familiar with and allowed it to dictate my life, which was destroying my mental health. Until one day I had an epiphany, I realized peace should come within and work it’s way out. By that I mean eliminating anything that was not contributing to peace whether that be thoughts, ideas, things, places or people. As I started to seriously practice self-love and care I noticed an internal freedom and release that the chaos that I was familiar with, would never give me. I felt empowered. Now, I disengage from anything that doesn’t bring me peace. Protecting your peace is so important on a self-care journey. I love myself so much that I will protect my peace at all cost. If I know something is going to disturb my peace I don’t allow it to enter my life. I encourage you to protect your peace by eliminating anything that doesn’t serve you and make those difficult decisions to release anything that irritates your inner peace. Don’t settle for chaos because it’s familiar, recognize your self-worth by protecting your peace as you continue your self-care journey. Peace equals internal freedom, bask in it!
For years, I was fearful of who I truly was or what I believed in. I wanted to fit in, and tried my very best to do so, but I always felt uncomfortable in my skin, to a certain extent. I was never happy because I was trying to keep my truth hidden to please others and I felt this enormous amount of guilt and lack. Having this fear, led to people-pleasing, others taking advantage of me and me left feeling aimless. It was a constant battle that was slowly destroying me. I became tired of hiding and I wanted to reveal who I was and what my truth actually is. Finally, I was fed up with that toxic mindset of avoiding my truth and decided to step into who I am and what I fully believe in. I must say, when I decided to take that step into a life-changing transformation, I felt like a burden was removed from my shoulders. So, allow me to introduce myself again, my name is Naomi and I am kind, caring, compassionate, fierce, free-spirited, spiritual and divine. Now, that I discovered who I truly am, I never want to pretend to be someone that I could never fully be, because that was never meant for me. I completely stepped into my truth and I love it here! I encourage you to step into your truth and no longer hide who you are just satisfy others. When you do, it will be magical and you will have more self- love and respect, it will feel like a victory has been won. Meditate, speak affirmations into the universe and just enjoy the journey of stepping into your truth. What are you waiting for? Step into your truth to feel a divine connection within yourself.
If you are experiencing low-energy, not processing thoughts well or just surrounded by negativity it might be time to deep cleanse your space. Everyone cleans their space but I am talking about giving your area the attention and care that it needs, clean with intention. Sometimes we feel down because our space is gloomy and needs a little reviving. Sundays are usually my days to clean, yesterday, I decided to clean with intention instead of rushing it, I took my time. I verbally put good vibes into my space with my daily affirmations and just enjoyed my cleaning time, it has been a long time since I really enjoyed it and I must say, I needed it. After cleaning with intention, I felt like I was breathing new air and my space was peaceful. If you are constantly feeling like you are in a dark place, maybe reviving and deep cleaning your space will do the trick, I know it cleared the air for me.
Happy Martin Luther King Day! Today, I decided to share this short but sweet poem that I wrote a few years ago, that I hope you all will enjoy!
I got a lot of hurt in me but I try to ignore it, I am weary but I am strong and move forward, onward, I go. It’s the only thing I really know, my friend and my foe. I thought I have been through this before, I guess I am not familiar enough, life gets rough, but onward I go I take every blow and feel it in my soul, deeper I go to who knows where but at least I am going there, at least I am aware. I stare into space trying to make sense of this strange taste in my mouth, trying to understand why everything went south. But it was meant to be, this is my tainted destiny. This red elixir keeps me company, like a soothing tea. I was vision impaired but I am slowly starting to see that what will be, will be and because of this, I rest in this new found clarity.
It’s official, I am posting blogs every Monday! I tried Wednesday and Friday and those days I found, don’t work with my schedule at all. So why not start the beginning of the week with a juicy blog. For this post, I will be sharing my favorite winter products to start off 2022. I hope that all (or some) of these products help navigate your winter hygiene routine.
Dove Dryness Relief Body Wash with Jojoba Oil
If you have read my previous blogs, then you know how much I adore Dove body wash. My go-to body wash from Dove is Deep Moisture. I was hesitant to try a different one but I am so glad that I decided to give it a shot. The scent smells absolutely wonderful. It’s definitely a combination of coconut oil, shea butter with a hint of jojoba oil. Your skin will be well-hydrated after bathing with this wash. This retails at $6.49 and it lasts longer than expected. I am pleased with this product so much that I bought my second bottle the other day. I will definitely recommend this body wash to keep your skin moisturized during the winter months.
Nivea Vanilla & Almond Oil Infused Lotion
To help your skin become even more moisturized and soft, this lotion is it. The lotion is pretty thick, so a little goes along way. The scent goes real well with the Dove Dryness Relief body wash and will have you smelling fresh all day. This lotion retails at $5.99. I have had it for almost a month and I still have a lot left. I recommend this lotion for the colder months to help protect the skin against the harsh, brutal weather.
Suave Almond & Shea Butter Moisturizing Conditioner
Are you noticing a pattern yet? Almond and Shea Butter works so well for me, not only for my skin but for my hair as well. During the colder months, I don’t really wash my hair with shampoo as much because it leaves my scalp dry and itchy. Instead, I use a moisturizing conditioner or co-wash to help keep my curls moisturized and hydrated. This conditioner smells amazing and has my curls and coils poppin’ and looking alive. This is quite a deal, retailing at $3.99. I purchased this the end of November and I still have some for at least two more washes.
Beloved Pumpkin & Tonka Whipped Body Scrub
I believe body scrubs are essential for winter. It helps reduce the risk of flaky, dry skin. My skin is ten times softer since using a body scrub on a regular basis. I typically scrub a few times a week. Since using this scrub, I have found that my skin is just as soft as my toddlers! The scent is intoxicating and I love the this brand provides whipped body scrubs, it makes it so much easier to apply and it feels amazing on the skin. This delightful scrub retails at $9.99. I would definitely recommend purchasing this scrub because it will certainly not disappoint.
These are just a few of my favorite winter products for 2022 that I thought I would share. What are a few of your winter favorites so far?
Moving forward into a new year is inevitable, but what isn’t, is making the choice to never leave yourself behind again. By that I mean never put yourself last, or you needs and desires on the back burner just to accommodate someone else’s needs because that is the definition of self-sabotage, which is highly toxic. In the past, I have made choices to be present based on the needs of others while I was left barely making it. I refuse to do that anymore. I realized that I matter, I deserve to be put first. In 2022, the word “no” should be said without fear especially when it affects you mentally and emotionally. Why wear yourself out helping people when others would never do the same for you? People-pleasing is outdated and should never be considered as a form of expressing your love and care for someone. As mentioned in my previous blogs, if you don’t take care of yourself who will? That’s right, no one, because no one will have that kind of access to your needs like you do. You can support other’s dreams without neglecting your own. If you are an empath, have a big heart and are naturally a giver, abandoning yourself, while helping others, might feel like the right decision but it’s not. Finding balance between self-care and helping others is the right decision and would benefit everyone in the end. Don’t let anyone disturb your peace or mental health because they need you, if they truly care, they will understand. If you are having trouble choosing who to please, choose yourself every time. Instead of New Year’s resolutions, make a life-style change to never leave yourself behind. You can’t be truly there for others if you are not there for yourself, first.
Creating boundaries is necessary, especially if you are prone to being a people-pleaser and a naturally kind person. Don’t get me wrong, being a kind person is awesome but being a kind person that has created boundaries in their life is phenomenal. When you begin any kind of relationship with someone remember to have boundaries. You can’t be everything to someone and not there at all for yourself. It’s healthy to create boundaries at the beginning of each relationship to set realistic expectations so you don’t neglect yourself. It’s also important to know when to set boundaries if situations become draining. If a relationship has some toxicity, set boundaries. If you notice that your loved ones are taking advantage of you, set boundaries. If a situation is starting to cause you more pain than happiness, boundaries need to be set, because you matter. Don’t feel guilty if you have to set a boundary and say no to one of your loved ones, if they love and care about you, they will understand, if they don’t respect your boundaries, then that is confirmation that you needed to set them in the first place. Studies have shown, that setting boundaries actually enhances your emotional health and well-being. Setting boundaries gives you the freedom to practice true self-care. Lately, I have been setting boundaries and improving my mental health, and I must say that it has been quite liberating. Be that boundary boss that I know you can be and set those much needed boundaries for the sake of self-care you will feel relieved that you did!
Happy Halloween! I was under the weather for the past couple of days, I decided to do my last Heart-Throbbing Thursday story today in celebration of Halloween. This story is based on some true events but my imagination definitely took the lead on this one: Deja Vu
After my dog bombarded me with her slobber on my face, I hesitantly started to get up and look around. Surprisingly, everything looked normal again. My backyard wasn’t empty, I heard people and the streets were occupied with cars. As I went inside through the basement, I held my breath to prepare me of what might be waiting for me on the other side of the door. As I creeped in, I was relieved when I saw our things there. I ran upstairs in hopes that my family were present and everything was in place. I opened the door and saw my mom cleaning the bathroom. Excited, I gave my mom a huge hug. Confused as to why I would give her such a warm hug while she was cleaning the bathroom, she asked if everything was okay. Elated, that everything appeared to be normal, I told her I loved her and just needed that person to person contact. I went to explore the rest of the house just to make sure none of my family members weren’t missing. After wandering through the rest of the house all my family members were safe at home. I spent the rest of the day enjoying my family’s company. I didn’t experience any nightmares for a few nights so I was anticipating getting some good sleep. I cozied my way into my bed, and pleasantly drifted off. Unexpectedly, I had a nightmare of someone chasing me into a dark abyss. Frightened, I ran further into the darkness in hopes that I will soon find some sort of light. I started to become fatigued and slowly ran out of steam. I fainted and collapsed onto the black cold ground. I woke up abruptly in my bed again. While it was still dark, I had a sudden urge to use the bathroom. Carefully, I got out of bed and made my way out the door. I saw the living room light was on and wondered who was in there so late at night. I turned the corner and saw my dad with his back turned, fiddling with something. I tapped him on his back to greet him and when he turned around my dad had horns on the crown of his head, warts all over his face, and black sharp squinty eyes. He looked absolutely grotesque. He turned to me and he looked evil and started yelling at me. I ran back to my room and he staggered after me. I shut and locked the door, I felt semi-secure since my sister was in there, I jumped in the bed and scurried under the covers, hoping that this was another dream. This same occurrence happened to me three more times. I was tired and frustrated, so I decided to stay under the covers until I saw sunlight. Patiently waiting for morning to come, I dozed off. When I woke up the sun was shining in my room. I was so relieved but exhausted at the same time. When I got up from the bed I noticed right under me were horns. I ran out of my room and I found my dad sleeping on the couch with two big bruises on the crown of his head. As I went passed him, he quietly said wasn’t that fun, we should do it again sometime…..
Happy Halloween be safe!
Welcome to Moody Monday, where I let my mood dictate what I write. This is the last Moody Monday for awhile before I delve into other planned topics. Tonight, my mood dictated a short poem, entitled Villain.
Go ahead, paint my picture dirty, make yourself feel more worthy. But your vision is blurry because you were in a hurry and forgot some details of the actual story. You are the villain, that was chillin’ waiting for your chance to spread distorted tales about me. You were evil and wicked with your intentions to destroy me but that was your first fallacy, you are just projecting, and that is clearly affecting how you feel about me. Let me serve you some tea, the first cup, I will gladly give for free. You can’t destroy what doesn’t belong to you, and that’s on everything.